Marion Graves Anthon Fish

Marion Graves Anthon Fish (nickname, "Mamie"; June 8, 1853 – May 25, 1915) was an American socialite and self-styled "fun-maker" of the Gilded Age. She and her husband, Stuyvesant Fish, maintained stately homes in New York City and Newport, Rhode Island.

Marion ("Mamie") Graves Anthon, as she was called, was born in Grimes Hill, Staten Island, and was the daughter of Sarah Attwood Meert and the esteemed Gen. William Henry Anthon (1827–1875), a successful lawyer and Staten Island assemblyman.Her paternal grandfather was jurist John Anthon (1784–1863).Mamie was of Dutch, English, French and German ancestry. She grew up on Irving Place in Manhattan and received only a rudimentary education and, by her own admission, could barely read and write.

Fish ruled as one of the so-called Triumvirate of American Gilded Age society, known as the "Four Hundred", along with Alva Vanderbilt Belmont and Tessie Oelrichs. She became a notable leader of high society (in New York City at her townhouse at 25 East 78th Street, at her stately home Glenclyffe in Philipstown, New York, and at her mansion Crossways in Newport, RI) by virtue of her quick wit and sharp tongue. Grandees attending her dinner parties would be greeted with the occasional insult, "Make yourself perfectly at home, and believe me, there is no one who wishes you there more heartily than I do." One man was greeted with "Oh, how do you do! I had quite forgotten I asked you!"

In collusion with her antics, Harry Lehr often served as a co-planner of outrageous parties, such as the one given in honor of "Prince Del Drago of Corsica", who turned out to be a well-dressed monkey (given too much champagne, the monkey proceeded to climb the chandelier and throw light bulbs at the guests). At another of her parties, dancers holding peanuts would feed an elephant she rented as they danced by it.

Fish's cattiness respected no rank, for when Theodore Roosevelt's wife sought to keep a frugal household,Fish was quoted as condescendingly saying of Mrs. Roosevelt "It is said [she] dresses on three hundred dollars a year, and she looks it."

On June 1, 1876, she married Stuyvesant Fish (1851–1923), the director of the National Park Bank of New York City and president of the Illinois Central Railroad. He was the son of Hamilton Fish (1808–1893). Together, they had four children, three of whom lived to adulthood:

• Livingston Fish (1879–1880), who died at six months
• Marian Anthon Fish (1880–1944), who married Albert Zabriskie Gray (1881–1964), the son of the Judge John Clinton Gray, on June 12, 1907. They divorced on December 5, 1934.
• Stuyvesant Fish Jr. (1883–1952), who married Isabelle Mildred Dick (1884–1972), daughter of Evans Rogers Dick, in 1910
• Sidney Webster Fish (1885–1950), who married Olga Martha Wiborg (1890–1937), daughter of Frank Bestow Wiborg, in 1915.In 1929, he married Esther Foss, the daughter of Gov. Eugene Noble Foss. She had previously been married to George Gordon Moore, a polo player whom she divorced in 1933, and Aiden Roark, another polo player whom she married in 1934 and divorced in 1939.

She died on May 25, 1915, and is buried near Glenclyffe at the Church of St. Philip-in-the-Highlands. Her Newport "summer cottage", Crossways, is now a condominium.